I have been married to my wife for 12 years, and the first time I asked her if she knew why she was getting married, she said: “Because I want to be with you”.
She’s an accountant and a mum, and she says she loves my job, but she’s also a big fan of being with a partner, even though she loves to talk about her friends.
She has a degree in business administration and has been working in the finance industry for nearly five years, so she knows her stuff.
She also knows my work background.
But I wasn’t sure what it meant to be married to her, or even to be together, and I didn’t really know how to ask for her to marry me.
So I went online and tried to understand what was going on, but I couldn’t really get an answer.
It wasn’t until I came across an article on marriage counselling, and a couple of articles from the UK, that I realised it wasn’t all a mystery.
What I’m about to tell you is the first thing you should know about marriage counselling for couples.
What you should also knowIf you’re considering marriage and want to know if counselling is available, here are a few things you should ask yourself:1.
Does counselling work?
It’s a common belief that marriage counselling will help couples work through their problems and find the right relationship, and it is certainly a useful tool for couples who are trying to decide how they want to live their lives.
However, a good number of people who seek help with marriage issues are also looking for support from counsellors, and some couples may find themselves in a difficult situation when it comes to their relationship.2.
Is it free?
Yes, it’s free to call, and counsellor-led sessions can be scheduled to suit individual needs.
However there are no guarantees of success, and in the long term the counselloring sessions may become a waste of time, as couples may have to return to their previous relationship if the counselling session ends in disappointment.3.
Do I have to pay?
Yes for couples seeking counselling, but it is important to note that counselling can only be offered for the duration of the relationship.
If you’re thinking about getting married but not sure if you need to, and you’re in a vulnerable situation, counselling can be an excellent option.4.
What happens after I give my answer?
When you’ve had your first appointment, it might seem like a waste to leave, but if you’re not sure about what to expect, you can leave it up to your partner to tell the couns.
Your answer is then shared with your partner, and they can decide what to do.
If they choose to continue, your counsellord will help you work through any issues that you and your partner may have, including the impact of the marriage on you.
If you want to discuss any further details of your marriage, and whether counselling is a good option, you’ll need to talk to your couns individually.
What else should I know?
If you have more questions about marriage, or about marriage counseling, you may want to ask your GP or other health professional about their work.